It's official. I've become a nag.
I honestly never thought I'd be that person, but being a mom has turned me into a mom. And not even MY mom.
My mom never fretted when my dad would shun his fathering duties. He could go hunting on the weekends and she never really complained, even though she had three children to take care of. She never even bitched and moaned when he would tell her to keep us quiet.
Of course, times have changed, and there is a MUCH greater expectation that fathers particpate and share in the childcare duties.
My complaint is this...I work full-time AND have to take care of J. at the same time. Lately, my husband has had to travel for his job a lot, which makes things even harder on me. Monday is my birthday and he's decided to go with his friends to Orlando Sunday night for the Def Leppard/Journey concert (and don't get me started on how ridiculous it is to pay good money to see Journey without Steve Perry -- it's like going to see a cover band if you ask me), which means that on my birthday, I've got the night-shift with J.
I'm tired, frustrated, and stressed.
Don't get me wrong. I love spending time with J. And I even find that when my husband IS taking care of him, that I want to be there too. But, when I have a major project to do for work and five students wanting 100% of my time and J. wanting 500% of my time, it's just too much.
And really, my husband is a truly wonderful dad. He just lets his priorities slip sometimes and I start to feel taken for granted. Hence, why I've become a nag.
It's really not the way I wanted to be when I turned 33. Maybe there is still time for change.
Friday, November 03, 2006
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Maybe things will settle down after the move. Don't worry about being a nag. Just think of it as reminding him.
WHAT?!? Journey without Steve?? What the hell is the point? I think your husband has lost a brain cell or two. Hee, hee. :-)
Anyhow, I think your 'complaint' is legit. You're probably totally maxed out on your stress limit and just need some pampering, etc.
Then again... is Stephen the kind of guy to totally surprise you at the last second? What I mean is that he *may* just have a trick or two up his sleeve and maybe he's really NOT going to that concert. It could happen!
Anyway, Happy early Birthday!
Love ya mucho!
xoxo
Good point Michele...not to get your hopes up, but could it be that he's planning something???
I hear you totally. It's not that you don't like spending time with Jake, it's just that sometimes it's nice to, oh, I don't know, pee by yourself every now and then. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! You'd be weird if you didn't feel this way.
Our mom's were superwomen when it came to childcare and doing everything themselves and the times were totally different. Not to mention, you never know what they might have griped about behind closed doors.
I don't mean to ask the obvious, but you've told him your feelings on the whole sunday night concert thing right?
Cory - I hope/think you are right!
Michele - I never expect a surprise, that way I'm not disappointed. I actually made a comment tonight about never getting surprised. I'm one of those weird people who says I hate surprises, but honestly, I secretly love them. Maybe he just doesn't know that! ;)
C. - Thank you for making me feel better about things. I'm actually doing better today about it. Only because I got my present early and that made me happy.
PS: On the mom thing, I think it just explains why my mom and aunt would get schnockered up on Riunite wine every afternoon. LOL!
xoxo
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